Lately, I've been really paying attention to what energizes me, replenishes me, uplifts me, makes me feel really good...and what doesn't. At the top of the list of what doesn't are the people who always got something bad to say.
They complain, argue, nit pick, and find fault everywhere, all the time. Nothing and no one makes them happy. They couldn't wait to get married; now they complain about their spouse. They couldn't wait to get that job; now they complain about their collegues and clients. They were dying for that third serving of banana pudding, but still complain about how it's so hard to lose weight and why there's so much cellulite. They always got something bad to say.
And the nit picking and fault-finding about somebody else's life are crazy. Like, why do they care that someone obese is wearing leggings? Or that someone has on blue eye shadow? Or that you eat your eggs scrambled instead of fried? Or that you wear sneakers instead of heels? They always got something bad to say.
Do you see how this negativity can add up? If you are trying to be positive, optimistic, progressive, happy and light, do you see how the constant negative and pessimistic outlook and behavior of these people can drain you and drag you down? And guess what? You can feel it or see it in yourself when it starts to happen. You will feel more down or angry or you will hear yourself start to say something that's not like you. Either way, you'd be going in the wrong direction.
People who always got something bad to say may feel insecure, unmotivated, inadequate, ungrateful, and/or feel like their life is out of control. They feel bad inside and this is the way they choose to release and unleash all this negativity instead of dealing with it in a way that will allow them to heal and receive support from others.
When it comes to these people, you have a few of choices: a) limit your exposure to them and love them from afar, b) ignore a lot of what they say, or c) cut them off completely. You must do what is best for your soul.
Personally, when I have to deal with people who always got something bad to say, I usually limit my exposure and ignore a lot of what they have to say. Rarely do I need to cut anyone off completely.
I encourage you to do what's best for you. And whatever you do, don't become like them.
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